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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:02:18

depression just sank in and she began questioning everything in her life. she doesnt know what she wants.... she doesn't "feel" anything for me anymore but, doesn't know why...will she come around with therapy or is it over?

Answer:

You may want to back off and give her some space for awhile. I broke up with my boyfriend because I was depressed, but It was also what I wanted. If you're worried about her depression though, you might want to tell her parents (if they live close by) or friends to keep an eye out for her, and hang out with her a little more than usual to make sure shes alright. After she comes out of her depression she may want you back, but on the other hand she might not. It's up to you to decide if shes worth waiting for.

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If your gf is really depressed, she needs support rather than abandonment. Why don't you talk with her and encourage her to see a therapist or doctor? There are meds and counseling which can help. She may feel better then and able to reevaluate your relationship.

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Let her go. Why would you want to be with someone who no longer feels anything for you? Who care WHY that is. Move on. I'd never want to hang around anyone who doesn't want me for whatever reason.

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I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend we been going out almost 4 years now, and were starting to have problems because of his depression. He keeps having thoughts of hurting himself and has to keep going to the hospital. He just lost his job and that really made him depressed, so they had to send him to the hospital. You have to give her alot of support it is not easy to get rid of depression, but she should go get help before it gets worse and she hurts herself, if I were you I would support her even as a friend maybe because she is going through a difficult time. Sometimes I feel like I have depression and can I don't wanna go out with my boyfriend but I really don't mean it at the end, so maybe she is just confused and needs some medical help, and it would probably help if you supported her.

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f that cut her off it'll give her more to think about

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If she really is depressed about her surrondings then they will have to change it doesn't ness. mean YOU are what needs to be changed but, she has to figure out what it is....

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After 3 years together, I'm assuming you are in the relationship for the long run. If she got real sick, would you walk away from her. No you wouldn't (I hope), you would stay and help her through it. It's the same thing. Depression is an illness, a sickness that needs to be taken care of the same way they would treat cancer, a cold, anything. What she needs most from you is to be there for her. Love her. If after she gets help, she still feels the same way, then you guys need to talk. But right now it is the depression talking, not her. Just be there for her when she needs you the most.

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i say bolt. the thing is - she doesn't love you anymore.