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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:02:17

It seems to me the main root of her depression is a poor self-image. I spend a lot of time on the phone with her, assuring her and countering any negative perceptions she has of herself. I don't really have a lot of time to spend with her physically. I'm quite afraid whenever she seems to disconnect from the whole world. As far as I know, I'm the only one she responds to. I feel the stress and fear. Can anyone help me?

Answer:

hey there... first off i would like to say just how sweet it is to see how you care about her... she is a lucky woman... i have a pretty poor self image of myself but my boyfriend has been helping me with that... if she needs someone to talk to i would be more than willing to talk to her... i had been told i was fat ugly and stupid since kindergarden... all thru high school... im sure your girlfriend is a very beautiful woman... one thing you should know is all women that i have come across have a poor self image... well 98% of them... even models have them sometimes... may i ask why you dont have much time to spend with her physically??? are you two not in the same town or city??? i would suggest your girlfriend surround herself with friends and family... as long as they arent part of the problem... my mother told me the other night that i looked like a cheap whore and that i was stupid... you have to let that go... in order to help your girl get better she should be surrounded by support and comfort... and around as little negativity as possible... it will also help if she knows that you care about her no matter what she thinks... and this is how god made her... she is perfect and i know it always makes me feel good when my man tells me i look wonderful... he tells me i look amazing even when he hasnt seen me... he says i always look amazing... it may take a little while for her to start to turn and believe it... and it may start that she slowly starts to believe you... but thats how it can turn... im slowly starting to believe my man... i would love to help further if you and your girlfriend would like... also try to find things that she enjoys doing cause if she is enjoying what she is doing and is good at it... even if she isnt it helps to build our confidence... i hope i was helpful... please dont hesitate to email me if you need help... and im here if she needs another person to talk to...

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seems like she cares for you and saying that you must be doing it right, go with the flow it is working for you

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This can eventually take a toll on you. She may become too codependent on you. You can continue to reassure her and help her seek additional profesional help

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consult a psychiatrist, she might be given anti depressants. it could help her alot. reassuring her is also correct.

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I would strongly suggest getting her some help. We all struggle with various things and counseling is nothing to be ashamed of - something you'll probably need to hold her hand on some. I'd maybe offer to go with her to her first appointment if that would make her feel better about it.