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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:02:15

make little challenges for urself- like if ur grandaughter does a painting priase her and give her a hug. try and tell her that u love her often coz she will feel loved off her "grampa"

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every one needs hugs !!! (they are remembered ) as not getting them ?? "a hug from me to you"

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Hi Denny,

I remember you from yesterday's Question and thank you for the 10 points.

Children can read between the lines better than we give them credit for. Playing the reverse psycology card by showing them love and understanding, can be viewed by the child as WEAKNESS.

Children of your grandaughters age are very quick at problem solving and know how to manipulate adults into getting what it is they want by any means possible.

By all means show her more love and attention, but be firm when you are being the boss. Always make sure that when you say no it means NO and there is no room for compromise.

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try giving her hugs and telling her you love her and when she starts to just hug you and tell you she loves you ..life will be great.

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I know it's hard to change the habits of a lifetime, but think back to when you were small--didn't you wish for a cuddle sometimes? Try to make things better for your GD than you had it. And remember, when you give a hug you get one back. Learn to enjoy expressing your feelings. It's certainly healthier.

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Even if you're not affectionate just an occasional smile and wink will do the trick. In my family it is a cultural thing where not a lot of emotion is shown. Yes, some weren't very smiley, but I'll never forget my grandpa's winks. Hey at least they tried! I have to say I inherited this same trait. I have a niece and I don't smile at her that much. But I can't really be any different. What can you do?

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You remind me so much of my mum. She wasn't brought up with hugs and tirades of "i love you" etc, if you couldnt feel that she loved you , that was your problem. But there were times , where a hug would of made me feel better, so much better, but she never hugged me. WHen i asked for a hug, she acted like she was giving me a kidney.

Hugs cost nothings and if you hugging your granddaughter will make her feel loved, then do it. Even if you feel uncomfortable, you make her feel sooo much better.

The sooner you get used to it, better your relationship with your grandaughter will be

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