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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:02:15

It is very difficult to accept someone you love is a self harmer- but there is a lot of literature out there that could help her understand - especially on the internet. Don't be too hard on her though - I know it's difficult for you, but it's hard for her to accept too.

If I were you, I would show her some of the responses to your question - to make her realise the situation you - and a lot of others are in. And that there is help out there if she'll help you get it.

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Have you tried other methods that aren't as severe. When I tried to stop self harm I was given an elastic band to put round the wrist. Whenever you want to cut you pull the band back and let it snap against your skin. I was told this technique from a mental health nurse when I was in a psych ward. It did help and I still wear one on my wrist.

When trying to stop, it can be difficult if you don't have other coping mechanisms in place first. I often feel anger aimed at myself as well as other people, so i bought an inflatable punch bag and when I feel angry I imagine whoever's face on it and and punch it like mad. The best tip I can give you is try to go one full day without cutting, then go for two days etc etc etc. Don't beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Do everything in your power to look after yourself and then start again.

I wish you all the best, I know what you're going through, if you want to talk more privately please feel free to email me.

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