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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:02:41

It's NOT because of you. Anything that happened between you two could have made her feelings of depression come to the surface but it's not your fault. She needs to fic herself before she's able to be ina healthy responsible relationship.

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My ex husband was a manic depressive, it is different but it does sound like some of the things he went through in a depressed stage. She may not be taking the right dosage in her meds or needs something different. Definitely counseling with a licensed psychiatrist, they are more able to determine the patients needs and understand the meds better. I won't lie to you, if things work out for you, staying with her will be very hard, so make sure you are really committed before making a final decision. She will need someone in her life she can count on through thick or thin.

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she is definitely mixed up and probably not sure what she wants she most likely feels that she needs to find freedom to see what makes her happy and feels she can't being in a relationship.

I would say a small percentage is depression but mostly not wanting to be committed to a relationship. Not necessarily your fault as much as it is her lack of self.

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First up what a nice guy you are for being so caring even after the breakup, good on you!

You have only been together a short while and it does sound as though she came into the relationship with some baggage. Long-term, you are better away from this situation as it will bring you down and make you unhappy - especially when there is nothing you can do to change the situation. That may be cold comfort as you obviously care about her. You need to accept that the time is not right for her to handle intimacy. You can choose to wait or move on, no-one else here can help you with that choice, but listen to what everyone so far has said, this is not about you, you did not cause her unhappiness, it was already there. Be happy.

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When a woman says her "feelings have changed" it means she met a man with either more money or a bigger package, or both. She really thinks her feelings have changed but her feelings have nothing to do with it.

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Whether or not she was depressed really isn't the issue here. The issue here is whether or not she was ever truly in love with you. I suffer from clinical depression and I've never told my husband I didn't want to be with him. I have, however, used my depression as a way to get out of a relationship I wasn't happy with. I was a compassionate person and I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings, so I would tell them that I was so depressed it would be in their best interest to leave before it got ugly. No one needed to be asked twice. From your description of your relationship I would say that you were the only one really trying. She told you three times she didn't want the relationship and only backpedaled when you pressed her. It sounds to me like she ended it because she wanted to, not because she was depressed. However, I'm just giving you my perception of the issue as a woman. Without knowing both of you it is really hard to say definitively yes or no to your question. But, I think you got really lucky. Chalk it up to stupid female hormones and move on.

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Hi, you probably know if your ex is capable of lying? But I think, she must be depressed, the doctor would not prescribe Prozac unless it is absolutely necessary. Maybe other areas in her life and your relationship is getting her down, it could also be related to hormonal changes when her periods are due. Depression is awful, people suffering and trying to wade through it, cannot rationalise, she probably feels guilty for bringing you down and feels that she is better off on her own.