Is it me or am I about to have a nervous breakdown
health advisory
Hospital
Mental Health
2007-11-15 19:02:33
Trust me.... psychiatrists WILL want to put you on medication.
They will destroy your life.
Just remember that.
You are not going crazy!!! You are allowing yourself to be so dependant on this guy, that you are not thinking for yourself or your unborn child!!! Wake up, Girlfriend!!!! This life style will only consume you & your child!! Go to a women's shelter, if you do not have any other place to go!! Get help from family members today!! Your mental & physical health depend on it!!
I hate to break it to you, but things are just going to get worse after you have the baby. He still won't be around and you'll have to care for a newborn and he won't help, you'll be exhausted, you'll probably go through post-partum depression, etc. My marriage was just about perfect before we had a baby. And afterwards, it just fell apart....there are so many changes that come with having a child and it's so difficult that if you don't have a solid foundation with your partner, you don't have a chance. Sorry...but just letting you in on reality. I'm not trying to be harsh...I know what it's like not to be able to let go and to let a man abuse you emotionally. I've been there and I know it's as hard to leave as it is to stay. So please don't think I"m trying to make it sound easy. I'm just letting you know that things aren't going to get better. You can't change him. The least you can do for yourself is to see a therapist to let out some of your anger/sadness without jeapordizing your own health and sanity.
You are not going crazy. You are experiencing a wonderful event soon. Your husband seems to be a very immature man.Not only does he not seem to spend enough time with you he is not showing concern for his child also. This harmful to you and the baby. He especially needs to stop smoking weed around you and the baby. He does realise that smoking weed could have caused birth defects before the pregnancy. He contributed to this baby before it is born also he should not be smoking around you and the baby and it is also harmful to himself. I believe that counselouring would help and encourage hime to go also. You are really sad and need to speak to a therapist, to your doctor, or a pastor. I am not going to tell you to leave your husband, only you really know the answer for that one. You are at risk right now for panic attacks,depression, and physical problems. Donot allow him to continually abuse you. Therapists help very much. If you want a particuliar one such as male/female. Ask for what you need and want. Donot wait until the baby is born thinking that the baby will change him because it will not. You definitely need guidance now. Only you can change yourself, you cannot change him. Take the advice of seeking a therapist. We care and try to honestly help you. Eventually you will have to make the Ultimate decision.
You're going to have to give him the ultimatum and stick to it. Your kids do not need a father who does nothing but smoke weed. If he loves you back he'll respect that.