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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:01:43

My sister is a very confident person who thinks I should 'get over' my insecurities (being shy and sensitive) and just get on with it. So I am meant to change my personality to make other people more comfortable around me?

Answer:

You don;t need to make people comfortable around you, you need to feel more comfortable around people. That can be achieved by just being around people and by joining in (stay strong).

You will see bit by bit, your comfort level will rise along with your self-esteem.

Good luck from No Longer Shy (I took a job waitressing) an that did the trick for me.

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Yes. It does not equate with survival of the fittest.

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No being shy and sensitive is not wrong!! It is only a problem if you are uncomfortable/insecure about being shy! Your sister sounds very naive!! Being shy is a personality trait, and like you say it cannot be changed overnight. people will only feel uncomfortable around you if you feel uncomfortable yourself. It is possible to be shy and comfortable!!

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Truthfully, if you want to be more comfortable, you have to practice being outside of your "comfort zone". Its hard for a shy and sensitive person to be outgoing. You have to practice at it.

Having said that, if you like the way you are, people will be comfortable around you anyway. Maybe its time to take a good look at yourself and decide what kind of person you want to be and then just do it!

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Nothing wrong with it.