Improving self image/self-esteem
health advisory
Hospital
Mental Health
2007-11-15 19:01:37
It's actually a sign of strength to admit your "weaknesses" & do something about them. Plus, after a few sessions if it's not working for you then you can drop it. You'll learn that it's mostly your mind that's playing these tricks on you, sending you false messages, and although everyone - even the best looking - are a little self conscious, it seems you may be a more extreme case & need to address this before you really start restricting your life.
this will sounds crazy, but take all those good things you listed about yourself, write them on post its and put them next to your mirror. that way everytime your getting ready to go somewhere and you look in the mirror, you can be reminded how special you are, and have no reason to feel self conscious.
just be yourself!! and i tell you many will love you. dont pretend what your not?
Let's just pretend for a moment that people really are looking at you and commenting on your flaws... so what? Do they matter in your life? You've been given this one shot, these maybe 7-8 decades and that's IT, are you gonna waste them on the opinions of total nobodies?
you are very lucky cuz u do not have aids, cancer, or poor so feel good. try www.more-selfesteem.com, www.selfgrowth.com.
My confidence in my self image comes from the fact that I know that am valued and loved! Know matter what people say or what someone may think of me I know that God and Jesus are on my side, they value and love me so that is all that matters because Jesus and God payed the ultimate price for my imperfectness, sin and my bad choices in life. To know no matter what they love me. I tell you what a confidence builder to have hope and faith in something higher that yourself! because what faith do I have in myself for I always seem to say the wrong things, am so easy to get angry at people that have hurt me in my present and my past, It so easy to for me to think of ways to seek revenge and its so hard for me to forgive. But I know that Jesus the Son of God was perfect, he was slow to get angry, he never said the wrong things, he never sot revenge but he continued to have forgiveness for all and expressed love to all. In time he took my and every ones imperfectness and sin on himself! All for the love of people like you and me! The Bible tells us the story: You see Jesus was flogged or beaten over 40 times, as Jesus stood silent, he was humiliated, degraded, mocked, striped naked, had jammed a crown of thorns on this head and was then nailed to a cross only after he had walked nearly a mile with a heavy crossbeam to his back! Why? You ask: The Bible answers that? For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in his steps, Jesus who committed no sin, nor was any deceit found in his mouth; and while being reviled, he did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting himself to him who judges righteously. (1 Peter 2:21-23) Christ hung on the cross for six hours before he died, He was there from nine in the morning until three in the afternoon. In spite of such enormous discomfort and indescribable pain, Jesus ONLY spoke words of genuine forgiveness to those who affiliated so much pain and anger to him! From the cross Jesus Spoke: "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." What? I know if that where me I would be very angry and not be forgiving men for doing all that to me! But, the fact is the Jesus was God in Human form so Jesus was and is perfect, he died for are imperfectness, sin and are suffering and this constant lack of confidence we all lose once in a while in are life! Know that lack of confidence is not how people or how you see yourself based on what is on the outside. But it should be how you see yourself on the inside. For the Bible says: The Lord does not not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.(1 Samuel 16:7) The Bible also talks about confidence as with having confidence in God when your afraid of what people think your say because God is your helper! (Heb. 13:5-6) God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you"(Deut. 31:6). So we say with CONFIDENCE,"The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?(Ps. 118:6-7) I don't know about you but that really cheers me up and drives me to be the best I can because the fact is I can NEVER pay the full price for what God has already payed in full for Me! That is why I know when I lose my confidence in life, I give what ever is bothering me to Jesus! And he always comes though! In Addition to what I have said I would like to recommend a great book to you for finding purpose and always finding inter-confidence in yourself when you rely on Jesus and God to supply it. The Book is Joel Osteen's Your Best Life Now, 7 Steps to living at your full potential. In closing let me read to you what is on page 3, chapter 1 that might hit home to what I been saying. Joel Osteen Says: "We have to conceive it on the inside before we're ever going to receive it on the outside. If you don't think you can have something good, than you never will. The barrier is in your mind. It's not God's lack of resources or your lack of talent that prevents you from prospering. Your own wrong thinking can keep you from God's best."
Page 4 continues: "Enlarge your vision. You must start looking at life through eyes of faith, seeing yourself rising to new levels."