Im suffering from depression, how can i make him care
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2007-11-15 19:01:33
Ive been dating this guy for over a year, ive been going through a lot, he just cant seem to get it. I cut my self a few weeks ago, and all he was worried about was how its affecting him, he just told me i better stop or hes going to leave me. I know he cares, how can I make him show it better?
Answer:You can't make someone care for you. You have to care about yourself and get help for yourself. To be so tied up in someone else's feelings that you're hurting yourself is a HUGE red flag. Find someone (a teacher, a trusted adult,) and tell them what's going on. This guy is not going to help you through any of this. His main concern is himself!
First of all, I can understand why he is acting the way he is. The cutting is a cry for attention and not much else. Try getting some help for yourself instead of wallowing in self pity. No wonder he doesn't want to show he cares, he probably thinks you're turning into some wackjob. Get help like a grown up, and then worry about having a relationship.
You need to see a doctor, You need to look after your self first. Guys just don't understand depression. Womens bodies are always changing not like guys. I have been there. Go and speak to a doctor, there is plenty of medications on the market. If he loves you he will stay in the back ground until you are better.
Try to actually tell him, how you feel. cutting yourself is calling for help, but not everyone gets your call. Explain to him what is your problem and what is making you feel like that and tell him, how important for you is his support. if he loves you, he will give you his support. if he leaves you when first problems appear, he wasnt worth it.
whoa, deja vu..sorry, it just sounds like the same case scenario that I've been going through. Well the only thing that has really worked is to tell him the truth, and to promise to talk to him or someone close to you before considering to do anything. Basically just be freely honest with him, for some reason it seems hard for him to understand, which is why I think he makes it a really big deal, so if you can get him to understand more clearly he will be more up to helping and supporting you. My boyfriend has told me the same thing, that he will leave me if it persists, we have gone through many heated discussions, and in that time he starts to get a clearer understanding, so your best bet is to try to find the best way to help him understand.