Im so angry at life It seems like the nicer I am, the more people walk all over me Why
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2007-11-15 19:01:31
As an extreme example, do you think if you were "nice" to Jeffrey Dahmer, life would be easier for you? Sometimes you have to protect yourself, not just physically. That doesn't mean being a jerk, there is a continuum.
I woodnt,i love nice people.People like competition,if you are nice and easy,well your last.
It isn't you at all. Many people are greedy and will snatch up anything good that comes their way. Another way to put it, is that they are taking advantage of you. When you are too nice, sadly there is such a thing :( , people generally get used to it and they take it in as much as possible. What you need to do is be firm (note: I didn't say "mean" I said firm). What this means is that you can be nice to people, but do not offer them any chance to use you or your services. For example, if you are going skiing with your family and one of your friend asks if they can come, but you don't really want them to, say "No". They will not take any offense to it, and you don't have to deal with them. It is OK to say no, it is actually healthy. You can be nice to people, just be sure to say "No" if you don't want to help them. :)
Because you are out numbered. The majority of people use nice people like you for their benefit. Their attitude is always, "What's in it for me". Most people will take advantage of your kindness with no remorse what so ever. Don't be angry at life. Just hang with people as nice as you. And be on guard for the users. It took me years to learn how to spot them and still to this day I will run into a few that takes advantage of me. Once you find some one has done this to you, drop their friendship. If you don't they will continue to use you. Just stay the sweet person you are and don't let the majority get you down. Just be thankful you are not like them. You are better. Much better.
Your'e spending too much time on answers or chat rooms
A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?