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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:01:36

Maybe you are just a thinker. They tend to be quiet and observe the world around them and think about others ahead of themselves.

Its a good thing to be.

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Hey, Oh my lord!! I am the same way. I am terrible at confrontation and would rather poke my eyes out!! I find it easiest to write how I feel. I had to have a fight with a friend in a letter!!! It's really frustrating and hard to get past when you just can't get the words out. Try going out in public and finding people you don't know to practise on! (I always feel they are less likely to care how I act because they don't know me.) I ask for what I want (in a store for example) and be a bit demanding. Get what you want and make sure you are happy. It feels powerful when you are able to get the words out. I am still working on it, but the worst that can happen is that someone will be mad at you, and screw them!! I'm learning to not care as much about what others think about what I say, but it's a slow process and it's hard! Good luck and next time you feel this way remember the movie Anger Management!!!!

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You see most issues as "confrontational" which is really not the case. Most problems can be solved with rational conversation and discussion of the issue.

Your main problem is that you see even the smallest issues as confrontational when they are really stating a clarification of your feelings. You can resolve these in a "non-confrontational" manner.