Im Very Non-confrontational

I have a mojor confrontantion issue. If an issue arises with someone, I think about what I need to say.. but when it come to saying it, I get all worked up and end up getting teary eyed. I'm a very strong person.. and usually keep my feelings to myself. Half of my closest friends and family have never seen me cry.

When I have a conflict with someone, I am so good at thinking what needs to be said. If only I could get it out! Its so frusterating.

I dont know if something is wrong with me.. or what.

Growing up, my mom was a yeller. She yelled @ me all of the time for even the smallest of issues.. and I was never ever able to stick up for myself. I'm pretty sure this where it stemmed from.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any Advice?

First of all, we do take what we live and learn from our childhood with us into adulthood.Although that is true it does not have to take it with you always. It is a learning process. One way do deal with certain situations would be to write down how you feel and what you wanted to say but you couldnot assert yourself at the time.Also,you could probably take it a step at a time.Try to allow yourself to speak rationally with the person that you have the contact with. They may yellback at you but that doesnot mean that you have to yell in order to be heard. Realizing that your mother yelled constantly to you as a child is a continuing issue with you. Just guessing, I hear in your writing that when there is a conflict, you feel that in a way it reminds you of your mother again,she didnot deal with conflicts easily and you probably were not given the opportunity to voice your belief or anger and you probably felt belittled by that especially if she had the only audible voice. Somehow you will eventually need to see that you are a person with a voice that needs to be listened to. This may not solve the conflict and some people will argue or even yell back but at least you would have had your say openly and not let it dig into your skin by holding onto it as you evidently had to as a child.Have you spoken with a therapist? You might find that they are a good source of understanding and be most helpful. Unfortunately, when we grow up in a situation as you stated, we generally live what we learn. Remember,at some point you will be able to let go of that hurt. You willnot forget it,but you will hopefully become more assertive and know that you are a good person.