If you are alone and no one seems to be on your side, how do you get over it

i wonder the extent of "alone". I was abandoned along with my brother at 9 yr old. We raised ourselves. As adults, he turned to drugs. I was completely alone, without a clue how to get a life. So I made work my life. Yet holidays were so lonely, my phone never rang. Eating alone at restaurants was just life.

I don't think you ever get over it, but you must learn to live in spite of it. I spent so much of my life trying to fit in somewhere...to have someone. It just became more painful.

I started thinking about what I would have been like had I had any support to push me and I started slowly moving in that direction. Determined to never need anyone (I lied to myself), after I began getting comfortable in my own skin (age 30), I met someone, he placed no expectation on me. I acted like a maid, because I wanted him to stay. He just wanted ME the one that could sit and be quiet and be okay.

I found friends at church, while I am in favor of that, you need to find what you enjoy doing....hiking, traveling, etc., but please don't make it partying, that is the way to lose yourself not find yourself.

I wish I could say family comes back, but they don't always. Maybe you will have to be the one to start one. Maybe just with a good friend.

Know that I lived that life for 21 years, it almost destroyed me, don't let it destroy you. Find yourself, do what you love, become self-sufficient and carve your own place in this world.