Iam 32 and recently find out i have ADD and
i have very impulsive behaviour all my life. i created a mess in my life where i offended many friends.i always want to make friends but screw by saying something.i always want to say nice things to people but they always take it wrong way. now i do not even talk to people because of fear hurting others feelings. how do i cope this problem? how add people keep their impulsive in control.i do not want medication?
Answer:Don't be too concerned about it. You may not really have it. My daughter has told me for years that I'm ADHD. I know I'm not. Turns out she is ADD and is on medication. I've never been told by a doctor. If you really don't need medication, don't take it. Some people want to calm ADD's down to where they are just not in anybody's way.
The only thing that I know to suggest to you is: when you make new friends, just tell them up front that if you offend them with something that you say, take no offense because no offense is meant. You sound like a very likable person. Don't let what some people say keep you away from people. We all need people in our lives.
Good luck. Keep trying. You never know when you will click with a very special friend who understands you.
Sounds like you deed Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and Social skills counselling. It depends where you live as to how easy it is to get this help, but start by asking your doctor. Medication will not really help very much, though Sertraline might help you a bit, but the therapy is the best thing.
You need to find a councilor who specializes in dealing with adults with ADD. They can teach you ways to deal with all the problems associated with it without using meds. If there is a free mental health center near you start with them. I have seen many ADD people deal very well with it when they have learned the right way to handle the impulsive behaviour and all the other things that are apart of it. Good Luck.
Have you actually been diagnosed, by a doctor? If so, they should have more suggestions for you. If not, you really ought to see a psychologist for help with your problems. You can also try reading books on different techniques and such that you can implement in your life to help manage your ADD. There are tons of books out there. Unfortunately, as you know, it can be very had to manage on your own. My husband found out he has ADD not too long ago. We had a lot of difficulty trying to overcome some of his issues, and nothing seemed to help except Adderall. In addition to the medication, getting him organized and developing good habits has helped him get more on track. If you haven't been, I definitely suggest going to a psychologist for counseling. If your insurance won't cover it, ask your general practitioner or call your local government for some information on how to find a counselor. I don't promote medicating yourself to fix your problems, however, some things can only be improved with medication. You should read more about ADD and what "causes" it. Good luck.
I have ADD, as well, and I am taking medication to help it. I was very impulsive a couple years ago, but I've gotten MUCH better. Give it some time, and ask about Strattera. (Although I think that's mainly ment to help with paying attention) Beware, though. Some medications have made me moody, grumpy, and fatigued. Keep searching until you find the right one.