I want to stop crying and get over my problems
People tell me that what I am crying over is not really worth all my tears and I wish that I could stop crying but I guess I am an emotional person. I feel embarrassed and I know people view me as weak, but I know I can be strong. I been crying a lot and I really just want to stop, but once we start talking about it, I start to cry again even though i try to fight back my tears. Maybe all the stuff I am going through will make me a stronger person, but I desperately want to know how I can stop crying now. I know maybe talking to someone will help, but I don鈥檛 think there is anyone who feels the same way I do. Please help =)
Answer:First of all....take a step back, take a deep breath, and look deeply into the situation. You say that what you are crying about is not really worth all your fears. Have you honestly determined that your crying is not worth it? Crying is a form of cleansing....tears are water of the inner self, springing from our spirit. Perhaps the crying is needed to rid yourself of the hurt. Only you can determine if the trigger for these many tears is big enough to cause such a release of emotion. If the trigger is that big, then cry! And why do you have to be strong for that.....has someone been telling you things like grow up, only babies cry, knocking you down with verbal insults, or have you heard this in your environment. Everyone cries - either publicly, or in silence where others will not hear. Yes, there are surely many who feel as you do. You are not alone - I have cried through the loss of a child, a best friend to suicide, my first love killed in an automobile accident, my life long career job, and now my husband is dying with lung cancer. I have cried many tears, and there were times when I tried not to cry, to hold in my emotions. These times were the most harmful to me. The pain was not dealt with, so it surfaced later in a way that cause far more harm, than when I had let the tears flow. So, my dear hurting soul, please allow the pain to be a healing pain. May these words comfort you, bring you peace and a better tomorrow!!!! Sheila in WV
keep telling ur self..." I won't cry, I know I can, I will". it's difficu;t though. But by practise u will win over it.
my ex used to cry a lot, and got told the same things about how what she cries over isn't worth it. Sometimes crying is all you can do.if you need to talk to someone you can gimme a msg anytime
Having someone tell you that what you're feeling is stupid or not a good enough reason to cry, can be painful. They are your feelings, so you need to know that it is ok to feel them in any way that you choose.