I quit drinking many timeS But AA is not for me

I have been trying to quit drinking for years now. I quit for weeks on end But when I go out and drink I get so drunk. I been to aa meetings over and I know thay are good But Let me tell you I feel like they are very clickish. The guys in them Make it a lifestyle. They go on fishing trips ball games. etc. some stay there 25 years!

I am not looking for a club just to quit drinking. It seems like they droped there LIFE TO BECOME A AA MEMBER. BIG CULT.

AA's not for everyone. AA's literature states that "they have no monopoly on getting sober." It's one of unfortunately only a few ways that alcoholics have found that consistantly works in helping folks stay sober. The key word is consistantly.

First, going to meetings is NOT the AA program of recovery. Setting in a chair in an AA meeting doesn't make a person sober anymore than sitting in a chair in a garage makes them a car. No where in the 12-steps does it say "go to meetings!" Therein lies the key - the 12-steps. Finding a sponsor is the key. Working the steps is the answer.

If you don't like a particular meeting or a group, find another. There's another key, a good home group, one where you feel comfortable and can be of service. You're right, some people trade a bar stool for an AA group. But that's OK for some. For me, AA's not my life, but it's a way of life. I try to carry all of AA 12-steps in my everyday life, yet most evenings I try to attend a meeting when I can. I attend at minimum of 4 a week. During Xmas I attended more, not out of fear of drinking, but to escape the non-alcoholics in my life. We (my wife is Al-Anon) go to 4 conferences a year (2 at the beach and 2 at home) and attend our local picnics and dances when we can. We go on one big vacation a year at a sober Club Med. I also volunteer at a halfway house and sponsor guys. Yet I have a family and a 40 hr a week job, too. The bottom line is because of AA.