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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 18:59:52

After the birth of my second child I felt aweful. I hated even looking at her. I knew this wasnt normal so I went to my OB and was diagnosed with postpatum depression. I have been on med. now for almost a year but I still have issues with depression. Its not nearly as severe and I was wonderingshould I go off the med. and attack this head on? Are there any women out there who have beat this kind of thing? I cry alot and am misserable most of the time. My children are beautiful but I feel as if I am a terrible mother and wife. Please give me some feed backon this. I love my husband and children dearly and would do anything for them but I just fel like such a failure. Is this normal almost a year after having a baby? PLEASE HELP!!!

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DO NOT GO OFF YOUR MEDS WITHOUT TALKING TO YOUR DOC FIRST!!! I did that and it was hell learning to cope normally. I have three children and I was the same way after the birth of my second child. I went to counseling sessions which was a huge step, and I made sure that I got time for me. I also made sure that I spent time with just my baby. I played with him and took naps with him. I even read to him while he slept. It helped me a lot to take time just to focus on him and have some quiet time. Feeling of inadequacy are commonly coupled with depression. Make sure that you let your husband know how you are feeling and that you really need his support. I definatly agree that you need a new med. I'm on Celexa and it's been wonderful!! Talk to your PCP not your OB. Depression may not go away but knowing how to handle it is a huge step in the right direction. I'm still on my meds and can often have days when I'm feeling blue. Counseling helped me learn to coupe and knowing that it's just something that some of us have to live with makes me feel normal. Don't let it make you feel like less of a person. You are a good mom just in asking for help! Good luck!!!

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grow up and take on the reponsibility you made for yourself when you decided to have children.Stop crying about post partum bull!!! You have 2 children who need you to be a mature adult and take on the responsibility of raising them.Do it and you will find your "depression" will be replaced with reward!!!!!

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stress with everyday life has kept you in your depression .Talk to your doctor and see if he can put you on a depression medication to help you and a low nerve pill like Valium or zanax

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i'm sorry this is happening to you. the meds were a good start, but obviously not enough. talk to your ob again, and ask about combining meds with counselling. you deserve to be happy- so does your family. good luck!!

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I haven't had children yet so obviously I have no experience with postpartum depression, but I just wanted to tell you that you ARE a good mother because you love your children and you want to get better for them. It doesn't sound like your medicine is helping you, though...go back to your doctor and get a referral to see a psychiatrist. You may need to switch to a different drug or you may be able to deal with this through therapy, or you may need both...and hopefully a psychiatrist will be able to help you with this!

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Honey, you need to go see your health provider. The meds you are on are not working properly, you are still depressed; drop the OB and go to a nurse practitioner or psychiatrist at a nearby mental health clinic, (or if you are more comfortable, your regular doctor but I'd recommend the mental health clinic, they deal with it daily). Don't be ashamed of it, there's nothing wrong with that; your hormones got out of whack and now they're still not right. No more stigma to this than having high blood pressure or diabetes. You need to be tried on a different medication or combo of meds, so you won't feel miserable and crying a lot, this is a bad sign and definitely a sign of ongoing depression. Please go see someone asap, so you can begin to enjoy your family and your children! Good luck sweetie!! It'll get better!!

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Sweet one it is not the baby its you. You should talk to a regular doctor, and let them know what you are feeling. You also can take one step and evaluate what has happened what is changing your love for your new baby, and remember on thing why a person is born, in the long run there is one answer, we are born to love our God, yes no matter what all people only have on, and Jesus really died for us. End of Story, I believe one thing after I rescued my dad's dead body, that life is life and I have never had a chance to be really happy, although people around me are very comfortable, and enjoy me and my two sons, faith i took that step and that is all I have had. You more than likely have youth, your feels they feel also, I bet you are pretty and living in cold weather, the sun gives us A &D and you my be lacking iron, have a glass of orange juice, get some roller blades and up you vitimans.

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Hello Misty. You are not a failure!...you are a great wife and mother. Only that you are going through a hard time. You are not alone. There is thousands of people around the world who suffer from depression. After giving birth womans hormones are all messed up, and hormones are related to brain neurotrasmiters so they are also unbalanced. This is why you feel the symptoms of crying, etc. Every human body is different so I would analyse if the medicine you are taking is the right one. I also suffer from depression. I also had weird symptoms to the point that once I wanted to hurt a baby (my sister麓s niece). I try many medicines and my body rejected them. Until I found Cymbalta which was prescribed by my doctor. All you have to do is to get those neurotrasmiters back on track. Ask your doctor about other medicines. You will regain your life back and will be able to enjoy your kids. Good luck! Argentox2@yahoo.com

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