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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 18:59:48

My mother just died in 04. she was a heroin addict all our lives, we lived in cars and stuff, she got hepC which gave her chirosis. she was clean the last 5 or 6 yrs of her life. not even a yr later, my grama (who i spent alot of time with cuz mom was on the streets or in jail) pasted away a week befored my birthday. I still have scary dreams, and still get very depressed to the point where its scary........(depresion sufferers know what i mean). How do I get happy like other people, I'm already on a depresion med so what else is there? is there anything left?............................

Answer:

First, stick to the meds. Then realize that you are not the sum of those experiences. In those events you had no part and are instead a survivor. I'm sorry that your Gram died but that is part of life.Feel lucky that you had a gram that loved you.There are many that have no one on their team. Please try to realize that the years your mom was out there....she wasn't capable of seeing how she was making a choice between you and dope.

Try not to let this remain the front page of your life.You got alot of life ahead and that should be the thing you go towards.

Sometimes i get hung up on how the sum total of my life sucks,and that if i was only born to average parents I'd be a superstar,rocket scientist, chic pres., or some thing. but if i live in that fact of I'm less than i should be, aren't i wasting alot of moments i could be having adding to my actual living. Also, look outside you and see others. See,I really feel that family is a lot like drawing out of a bucket blindly,ya get what ya get. We play no part in who we are subjected to...But now i consciously chose who i invest time, loyalty, and trust into.those relationships help turn the focus towards the warm possibilities of the future....sorry if i rambled.

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A lot of times its because you havn't really accepted or face the fact and reality of their deaths. I know it is a very hard subject to dive into, especially when it pertains to people you love, but the steps to recovery are acknowledging those problems, facing them, and learning to accept them and no that nothing you did caused these things to occur. It's very hard to get over depression, i know it was for me but it IS possible if you really set your mind to it and stay positive. Just wake up every morninga and say I AM GOING TO GET THROUGH this. Will power is an amazing thing. If you possess that, you are going to make it out with such a strong and positive outlook. I suggest you look up depression on webmd.com. They will give you plenty of pointers on where to start with treatment, medically and alternatively. Good luck to you, I know you will do great!

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if u need a friend i am here dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try calling 1800 lifenet. i suffer from bipolar so i know life can be hard. try also just remembering the good times. but hey write down your feelings. take care of you. eat. exercise. but i am here cuz i know how it feels to feel below everything. good luck.

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As a person who suffers from depression as well, I am so sorry you are in such despair. There are a lot of resources out there through mhmr and such, but I know when you are depressed it seems like a monumental effort to reach out. It sounds simple, but something that helps me when I don't even have it in me to go to therapy, psych doc, etc. is just sitting in the sunlight for a while. Also, even a 5 or 10 minute walk around the block can help. I don't know all the details, but when I am in a really bad place I make a point to take a shower, put on real clothes, and make my bed. Sometimes just going through the motions like you are "normal" helps. Take care.

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First, you have my sympathy. You have been through a lot of grief in a short time. Just by reaching out and asking you are helping yourself.