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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 18:59:46

and i feel bad when i say i am so busy, or tired today, i am such a softee people dont, respect soft people do they but i dont, want her around all the time

Answer:

Well you are right now a days people dont respect soft spoken persons. In my view be polite but assertive and tell her that when you can meet or talk to her. If it also suits her then its fine. If it doesn't then one day you will burst and that may hurt her also. Friendship also needs some space to grow.

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Set a set time to meet each week like Friday afternoons. Explain that you have appointments or commitments during the week and can only meet them. Your friend will get the message. Or, don't answer the door or calls and they will find other friends to talk to.

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Yeah I know what you mean. I used to have one of those. I just told him that I have big exams coming up and I need to revise. Tell her that she can come round on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays instead of every day.

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You are doing the right thing. Just be honest with your friend and tell her that you are tired and can't see her. Maybe discuss with her that only want her to come around on a certain night or nights and that way she is clear on when she can see you.

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Oh My God, I have exactly the same problem. Its not that I don't want to see her, it's just I don't want to have her here every day. There have been weeks where she has been at mine every day. I don't know what the solution is, (I am a softie like you), but I just figure its good for my karma! (And I am planning to move away from the area this year, hopefully!)