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health advisory Hospital Mental Health 2007-11-15 19:00:19

Somedays I feel really unattractive, unintelligent, boring, dull...etc. I feel like I have nothing to say. I worry about people asking me questions because I feel that I will say something stupid. I'm in college now. I thought by now I wouldn't have these problems, but they still remain buried inside of me. I see a psychologist, doesn't really help. I feel like a loner, but I am always socializing. I don't easily trust people. I feel akward and strange at times. Where do I belong? Sometimes I think I will settle for anyone who I feel comfortable around because so many times I feel so uncomfortable around someone I truly like. I'm weird, different, stupid. That's how I see myself. What to do?

Answer:

You definately have some self-esteem issues to deal with, I suggest you contact a counselor at school and discuss this.

There are many ways to build confidence in yourself. One thing you can begin to do is stop those negative messages you say you feel. Watch your self talk, make sure you are thinking positive thoughts instead of negative ones.

You can make friends if you learn how to ask people about themselves, listen attentively, smile, be friendly and find things in common with people.

Make a list of all the good things about you, be honest, not critical. Get friends and family to help with this list. Keep that list handy and look at it daily. Own it.

Don't get desperate and settle for anyone, that is very dangerous.

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you seriousely have a confidence problem... i don't really know hwat to say but try to really get to know people (try not to let your confidence get in the way) and then you may possably find people you can talk to about it with that you really trust......... your not the only one feeling those things bout yourself..... i know its not easy but try to think of the good things and not the bad things bout yourself...... (trust issues are hard to deal with)... good luck and remember somebody loves you : )

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I feel the same way. Even with family and friends, I feel awkward and like I don't belong. Somedays I feel unattractive and dull too. I can't tell you how many times I have been to a party and had nothing interesting or smart to say. I am 26, and married with two kids. I wish I was that mom who had it all together, but I'm not. I find that if I fake it, it helps. I act happy or like I am this very confident person and it's easier to fit in. I've always been a loner, but I socialize quite a bit. I doubt anyone sees you as weird or stupid. You may be being too hard on yourself.

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No worries, we all feel that some point of time.