Why is it easy to have orgasm alone but with partner harder
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Mens Health
2007-11-15 5:38:54
why i can get off in like 5 minutes but I have orgasm with partner he has to work MUCH harder despite he doing everything i like and i do end up having one - why it taking longer?? how can i speed him up, lol?
Answer:You need to feel more confortable, and does your partner perform oral?
My partner loves me giving her head because I actually do love doing it, I love the taste, the feel and the whole experience of pleasureing my girl =)
Because she knows this she doesnt feel "bad" or worryed what she tastes like... all these things prevent fast orgasms! if its things like that your worried about ask him does he like it, im sure his answer will be YES! =)
You are with wrong person as it all[[[starts{ in the brain so find someone that really turns you on
Basically self stimulation to orgasam is easier because you know exactly how much pressure to exert at what time. It takes about 7 minutes for most women to reach sexual peak with a partner. Not that it is my business, but I hope this is your husband we are talking about.
you arent relaxed enough to enjoy
you're not totally relaxed.
Maybe he doesn't stimulate you the way you can stimulate yourself during fantasizing... and your first answer may have quite a bit to do with the problem....
You need to relax. You are expecting too much from him and yourself. Sexual relationships take time and practice. Have fun. This is a common issue for women-just takes longer for us and shorter for him. I found someone who was willing to wait for me and at times I felt we were just working too hard and having no fun-so he got a freebie. It's only 23 seconds.
You are probably self conscious. With a partner there is more than just the concentration of bringing on an orgasm.
It's all about the concentration. You can feel it better when you do it. Every woman has that issue.
Have you tried doing it yourself, while you are both engaged? Maybe you just do it better than anyone else. Obviously he's trying to do everything you like....but there is something he can't quite do as good as you, or you haven't yet showed him the secret. You might even be holding back so as not to let him think he has that power over you. You know....turn you into a satisfied, whimpering, puddle of melted butter.
i say that its cause you control the speed
He is not doing it the same way you do it. He is doing it in his own way. And he cannot learn from his experience because he doesn't know how it feels for you.