Premature release, Performance anxiety AND a small unit What to do
Please don't tell me to just leave him because he has to be the best person I have ever dated....
But this IS sort of a problem.... The small thing I can work around but sometimes he has performance anxiety and can't get it up. And when he can he doesn't even last 10 minutes!
It is still a new relationship so I can't yet call it an ongoing problem but it is definately an every time so far problem. In the time that he does last I can't even get close to an orgasm due to the fact he just isn't there for a long enough period of time.
What can I / we do to fix this?
PLZ HELP ME!!!!
Answer:IF you are talking about 10 minutes of actual penetration, then he is above normal.
More foreplay to get you off or really close and then go at it.
well, you could spend more time on foreplay, and I don't just mean touching and kissing, I mean use oral and body rubbing as well. Try to go easy on him during the actual sex until he can build up a resistance to you. (He will get used to you). As far as the performance anxiety thats probably all mental! Just talk to him a lot and encourage him A LOT. If after months there is not improvement he may want to see a doctor.
Try playing with his penis with your hands. Stop before he ejaculates, keep doing this and it can help build stamina. Then in turn try it with sex.
It isnt very unusual for a guy to not last 10 minutes, so tell him that. The less anxiety he has the better it will be for him.