Ok guys, i have a question for you

I go to high school with my friend marrisa, and shes pretty heavy, but she has a beautiful face, other than shes like 40 pounds heavier, she has a figure. but she wont go on a diet, but you see, when she was like 10, she was walking in town on her way back home from school, and a man raped her, and she dosent know how, but he stabbed her 6 times, and she lived. Well she was so scared she thought that if she made herself less atracive, guys wouldnt like her. Well she did, she gained alot of wieght. Now shes 16, and weighs 185 pounds, but shes traumatized and she dosent want to lose the weight. But what breaks my heart, is that shes been like this since she was 10, and she has NEVER had a boyfriend, becuase she is heavy. And shes a great girl, funny as hell, she won funniest female of years 3 years in a row at our school. And anther thing is guys make fun of her alot,and it makes me mad bc they dont know why she is like this, what do you think i should do? what would make guys like her?

i hope your friend is seeing a therapist. Just living with it and trying to deal by being fat is NOT going to do anything but make her more miserable. She is deliberately manifesting self-loathing, which is a terrible cycle. please please, don't worry about GUYS. that is so lame. She needs a lot more than a boyfriend at this point she needs counseling. Imagine a girl with that fragile a self image actually falling in love at that fragile of an age. If he broke up with her or it didn't work out she could be suicidal... or at least take it really hard and be in a worse place. The best thing you can do is get her to see someone and take control of her self esteem and let go of the past as best she can.