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health advisory Hospital Health care 2007-11-14 16:20:07

If you go to family therapy together and someone doesn't want to change what do you do?

Answer:

We need to ask ourselves:

- Why do we want them to change - is it for them or me?

- By judging them, are we making it harder for them to change because it is effecting their self esteem ?(if we keep telling someone they are no OK, they will think they are not OK)

While there may be some aspects of their character you are struggling to relate to, tell them what it is you love about them, their good qualities. By telling them they ARE OK will build rapport, trust and respect which will improve the outcomes of the therapy work.

The purpose of family therapy is to work on the relationship. It does not necessarily mean that there is something wrong with just one person, otherwise they would be having individual sessions.

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If they won't change you can change or you can leave

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Unfortunately, you can't change people, you can only change the way you react to them.

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don't change for them either, if they aren't willing to help, then why should you. What good is going to therapy if no one is going to do their part?

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honey you can't change anyone it's left up to them to do the changing.It has to be in their heart in order for them to change in the first place,if they don't want to change you have to leave it at that.I know from experience I've been there and done that before.I wish you luck with this.

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then it's time to move on.

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worry about yourself, not other people.

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in understanding people you need to understand the process of coping or dealing with issues.